The books and CD's below have been very helpful in the therapy process.  If you click on them you will be taken to Amazon.com for a complete description and reviews.

Even though Boundaries and The Dance of Anger seem more for women, they are really appropriate for men, as well.  This helps in understanding how healthy boundaries develop--or fail to develop--and is a guide to recognizing when boundaries are being crossed.

The Dance of Anger - A Woman's Guide to Changing the Patterns of Initimate Relationships by Harriet Goldhor Lerner PhD (1985)

Trapped in the Mirror is very helpful in understanding the patterns set in motion by narcissistic parents which can be very freeing.

I Don't Want to Talk About It   is particularly good to help recognize dysfunctional coping strategies men use to avoid dealing with legitimate pain  and how to overcome those tendencies.  Terrence Real's three books mentioned here are all excellent in growing healthy relationships.

I Don't Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression by Terrence Real (Mar 2, 1998)

How Can I Get Through to You? Closing the Intimacy Gap Between Men and Women by Terrence Real (Dec 24, 2002)

The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Know to Make Love Work by Terrence Real (Jan 29, 2008)

You Just Don't Understand: Women and Men in Conversation by Deborah Tannen (Jul 24, 2001)

That's Not What I Meant!: How Conversational Style Makes or Breaks Relationships by Deborah Tannen (Mar 12, 1987)

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The Female Brain by Louann Brizendine (Aug 7, 2007)

The Boy Who Was Raised as a Dog: And Other Stories from a Child Psychiatrist's Notebook--What Traumatized Children Can Teach Us About Loss, Love, and Healing by Bruce Perry and Maia Szalavitz (Dec 25, 2007)

1-2-3 Magic: Effective Discipline for Children 2-12 by Thomas W. Phelan (Oct 1, 2010)

The Available Parent: Radical Optimism for Raising Teens and Tweens by John Duffy and Thomas Phelan Ph.D. (Paperback - May 10, 2011)

The Road Less Traveled: A New Psychology of Love, Traditional Values and Spiritual Growth by M.D. M. Scott Peck (Sep 15, 1988)

The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom, A Toltec Wisdom Book by Miguel Ruiz (Jan 15, 2001)

Miguel (Author); Ruiz by The Four Agreements (An Unabridged Production)[2-CD Set]; A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom (2005)

Conversations with God : An Uncommon Dialogue (Book 1) by Neale Donald Walsch (Oct 29, 1996)

Conversations with God Book 1: An Uncommon Dialogue by Neale Donald Walsch, Edward Asner, and Ellen Burstyn (Dec 1, 2007)

Communion with God by Neale Donald Walsch (Oct 1, 2002)

Friendship with God: An Uncommon Dialogue by Neale Donald Walsch (Oct 2002)

 

Home with God: In a Life That Never Ends by Neale Donald Walsch (Mar 6, 2007)

The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment by Eckhart Tolle (Sep 29, 2004)

The Power of Now Unabridged on 7 CDs in Box [Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment] by Eckhart (Author) Tolle (2002)

A New Earth: Awakening to Your Life's Purpose (Oprah's Book Club, Selection 61) by Eckhart Tolle (Jan 30, 2008)